Rui Qi, RSW | Mental Health Counselor + Relationship Coach

#$%@!! ARGH Grrrr !%! 🤬 Does this sound like you when you’ve been triggered? Have you experienced saying something you don’t even mean when you’re triggered only to regret it afterwards? If you can relate to this, I feel you and have been there before too. The next time you find yourself triggered, try taking a deep breath, pausing and then responding honestly sharing where you’re at. ✨ It may look like bringing up that you feel triggered. Or that you don’t know why exactly but you don’t feel great. Share what you need and would like such as ending the conversation or taking a break. Or if you don’t want to or can’t explain, simply state what you need. 👉 What do you normally do when you get triggered? Are you able to keep your cool? Or do you tend to explode? What do you say to other people when they trigger you? 💬 Let me know in the comments! I’d love to hear more about how you handle triggers. ➡ Save this and follow @wholenesswellnessbar for more on having a healthy relationship with yourself and others, healing from pain and mental health tips. __________ Reminder: The purpose of these posts is to share information, tips and encouragement. Not every post may apply to your situation nor are they meant to replace therapy. #emotionaltriggers #triggers #traumatriggers #anxietytriggers #emotionalhealing #emotionalfreedom #emotionregulation #emotionalwellness #emotionalhealthmatters #emotionalhealingjourney #mindfulrelationships #loveandrelationships #relationshiptalk #relationships101 #relationshipsmatter #relationshipproblems #consciousrelationships #healthyrelationships #relationshiphelp #relationshipcounseling #innerhealingjourney #innerhealing #healingtrauma #talkingtherapy #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthwellness #traumahealingjourney #healingfromtrauma #emotionalhealingcoach #wwb

🤦🏼‍♀️ Feeling stuck and not knowing what to say to let someone know how much they mean to you? Here are 10 prompts to help you express yourself and show your appreciation. ⁠👆🏼 Appreciating someone with your words is a priceless gift. 🎁 It’s a meaningful way to let the other person know you see and value them, as well as affirm the connection you share. Your words also let them know what’s going on at your end of the relationship and gives them a glimpse into you. Thinking through these prompts and expressing your gratitude is a great way to reflect on the relationship and a reminder to not take the other person for granted. 💝 🔖 Don’t forget to save and revisit this when you want to let someone know you care about and appreciate them. ➡ For more on having a healthy relationship with yourself and others, as well as mental health tips, follow @wholenesswellnessbar . ______________ #relationshipbuilding #healthyrelationship #healthyrelationships #assertivecommunication #bettercommunication #communicationtips #relationshipskills #relationshipsupport #relationshipsuccess #lovelanguages #5lovelanguages #fivelovelanguages #lovelanguage #wordsofaffirmation #interpersonalskills #relationshipcounseling #relationshipadvise #relationshipsmatter #consciousrelationships #consciousrelationship #relationshipproblems #relationshipblogger #relationships101 #relationshiphelp #relationshipcoaching #relationshipmatters #relationshiptips #relationshipcoach #talkingtherapy #wwb

😫 Struggle with low self-esteem? Here are 6 possible reasons why. 👆🏼 Besides addressing the issues and roots of what’s causing your low self-esteem, I also find it helpful to be aware of my self-talk and what I’m telling myself. When you’re harsh or constantly critical towards yourself, it affects your self-esteem and how you feel about yourself. Try regularly asking yourself: ✨ What narrative am I telling myself? Is it helpful for me? ✨ What words and tone am I using to speak to myself? Is it encouraging? ✨ What’s a compliment I can give myself? 💬 What helps you boost your self-esteem? Comment with any suggestions! ➡ Follow @wholenesswellnessbar for more on healing from pain, mental health tips and having a healthy relationship with yourself and others. ++ Transformation Sessions Online ++ ⇨ Heal from pain and difficult emotions from the past and present ⇨ Identify and overcome triggers, unhelpful beliefs, limiting mindsets and root issues ⇨ Discover your value, grow in loving yourself and be equipped to have healthy relationships 📱 For a free connect call: 📧 DM or email hello@wholenesswellnessbar.com _________ Reminder: The purpose of these posts is to share information, tips and encouragement. Not every post may apply to your situation nor are they meant to replace therapy. #lowselfesteem #selfvalue #radicalselfacceptance #selfacceptanceiskey #radicalacceptance #selfacceptancejourney #validateyourself #selfvalidation #youaregoodenough #selfworthjourney #yourfeelingsmatter #selfesteemboost #selfesteembuilding #selfesteemcoach #personalgrowthjourney #personalgrowthcoach #emotionalhealthmatters #emotionalhealingcoach #relationshipproblems #peoplepleasing #innercritic #anxietyissues #stopcomparing #peoplepleaser #fearoffailure #traumahealingjourney #healingfromtrauma #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthwellness #wwb

CHANGE ✨ It's inevitable in life but how we view and handle life transitions is different for each person. Do transitions excite you? 🤩 Or do you tend to fear them more? 👉 Of this list of different life transitions what have you experienced? What helped you in the process? 💬 Share any suggestions you have in the comments! I'd love to hear what helps you. ➡ For more on healing from pain, mental health tips and having a healthy relationship with yourself and others follow @wholenesswellnessbar _____________ #lifetransitions #changeispossible #selfgrowthjourney #personalgrowthanddevelopment #purposefullife #lifeonpurpose #letgooffear #overcomeanxiety #innerjourney #selfawarenessjourney #selfawarenessiskey #beyourtrueself #selflovematters #selfloveiskey #lifecoachinghappiness #lifecoachtips #lifecoachtowomen #lifecoachesofinstagram #selflovecoach #personaldevelopmentcoach #emotionalwellness #lifepurposecoach #empowermentcoach #emotionalintelligencecoach #mentalhealthquote #mentalhealththerapist #mentalhealthcoach #mentalpeace #mentalhealthwarriors #wwb

Self-care ideas to take care of yourself during the holiday season ❤️ . This year I especially want to focus on the first one: Follow through with the commitments and intentions you made with yourself. ✨ In the midst of the busyness of this season, I'm intentionally reminding myself that what I plan to do for myself matters. Don't want to forget the promises I've made to myself just because it's a busy time! . 👉 How about you? How do you like to care for and show yourself some love during the holiday season? 💬 Share with me a self-care idea in the comments!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! 🎉Whether you celebrate today or not I wanted to still say THANK YOU and let you know that I'm thankful for you! ❤️ . Thank you for all the ways you've interacted here with me, for your sharing, comments, questions, encouragement, conversations and more. 👏 In all honesty, I've never been a big social media person but since I restarted this account last month, I've found myself genuinely enjoying my time here and interacting with you all. So, really, a big thank you and I'm looking forward to hearing from you more! 😃 . You guys, friends who are like family and my family are what I'm definitely thankful for this year. How about you?💬 Share with me something you're thankful for. I'd love to hear!

Overwhelmed? Emotions a mess? Stressed? Anxious? 👉 Deep breathing can help you reduce tension, relax and unwind. 👈 . Breathing deeply sends a message to your brain and body to calm down and relax. Your heart rate, breathing, blood pressure decreases as you do so. . Have you tried deep breathing before? How did you find it? Does it help you unwind and de-stress? 🌟 Save this video and give it a try the next time you need to calm down.

Have you laughed lately? 🌻 Maybe it hasn’t been easy to find much to laugh about recently BUT I still wanted to encourage you to have a good laugh given all its benefits 🤣⁠ .⁠ ⁠ Benefits of laughing include reducing stress hormones, relieving pain, increasing immunity and more. ✔️ It can help in boosting your mood, providing an emotional and physical release, connecting you with others and enhancing personal satisfaction. ✔️ Plus, laughing is free and convenient! 👏🏼⁠ .⁠ ⁠ Here are some ways to add laughter to your life ⤵️⁠ .⁠ ⁠ 👉🏻 Funny movies, shows, books, tricks, etc… 📺📖⁠ ⁠ 👉🏻 Jokes and memes 🤡⁠ 👉🏻 Laughing over funny memories or antics with friends and family 👪⁠ ⁠ 👉🏻 Playing fun games 🎮🎲⁠ ⁠ 👉🏻 Finding humor in life. Look at mistakes, frustrations or memories from a different perspective and see if you’re able to laugh and think of it as a funny story to tell your friends. 👓🔄⁠ ⁠ 👉🏻 Fake it. The body can’t tell the difference between laughter coming from humor or laughter you start doing on purpose. The benefits are the same and often once you start laughing it could very well lead to “real” laughter anyways! 👍🏼⁠ .⁠ ⁠ What about you? Tell us, what’s something that makes you laugh? 😆⁠

Just a friendly warm start of the week reminder that it's okay to feel your emotions and to not give yourself a hard time about it. . What are some of your favorite note to self / start of the week encouragements? Share in the comments and spread some encouragement!