The {Distinguished} Gentlemen’s Ride
#dgr2024
Bright and early (actually it was cloudy and chilly, and early!) I headed north to grab coffee
@ellerbakery with one my dearest riding companions and friend, arriving frozen in the face from my “vintage” open face helmet, and tear stains completing my unromantic look from the cold wind terrorizing my eyes right through my sunglasses, aka, eye protection. I silently begged the sun to come out, took some delightful photos of my friend on her beautiful Thruxton, ordered two shots of espresso, and cursed myself for believing the shoes I had chosen for the ride could possibly have been a decent idea.
However, I’ve always been one to push into discomfort as if it somehow validates my existence. This morning was no different: see, the DGR, as I’ve shared via here as well as my blog post on the DGR riders’ personal fund raising page, isn’t exactly my cup of tea. Or so I originally thought. After all, I’m not a gentleman, prostrate cancer isn’t my worry, and I check out pretty optimistic when it comes to life. But first year I heard of the DGR I dug a little deeper, educated myself further, and discovered it very much was my cup of tea, in fact, it was an avenue that melted some of the ice-tea parts of my heart and was truly something I not only wanted to be apart of, but support. The first two years I took down names from all of you guys - either cancer survivors, mental health survivors, or in honor of those who didn’t, or those close to you who suffered. I had names to add along side on the back of my vest and I rode in honor of them all. I felt it.
This year, as some of you noted, my vest with the names wasn’t along for the ride, nor did I ask for names to add. This was for the purpose of shifting my heart this year to riding in honor of the good men in my life: ones who have and are doing the daily work to be safe for themselves and others; who have returned my hope in man-kind. The ones who have shown me we all stumble, but it’s those who keep getting up, keep trying, that carry strength like no other. I rode in honor of men who have taken the research on mental health to heart, and are doing their part. Thank you.