Healing will not be a straight path!!
Some days will feel like an epic fail, while other days may feel like you have momentum
Some days will be fuzzy and uncertain, while other days may be clear as crystal waters
Some days you will be up, down, or all over the place
ITS OKAY! Keep going! Your brain is healing & constantly processing--making sure that your new healing journey creates safety.
Trauma happens in a split second but it may take years to a lifetime to heal. Just know that you can still get there...even when the path is slippery, been derailed, & has hills and valleys.
Be patient with yourself, your process, and others
After trauma, we can become stuck. Stuck blaming others and ourselves, as well as becoming stuck in our state of mind.
However, we have to understand that while our permission was not given for trauma to intrude on our lives, healing is nobody's responsibility but ours!
Stop projecting onto others and start taking care of yourself!!
Self care can minimize the need to tap into your coping skills. However, there will be times when self care doesn't and won't help, and that's okay.
Coping will be there as a backup and the good thing is that there's countless self care and coping techniques to last you a lifetime.
You deserve it ❤️
If you're a part of their support team, reassurance becomes an essential need.
If you don't have the capacity to reassure or refuse to reassure, you're doing more harm than good.
Don't take on the responsibility to be a part of the support team! It's okay to say no.
We all need someone to support us in life. It's a basic human need, but when we're healing from illness whether it be mental, emotional, spiritual, or physical, that need becomes more urgent. So while on your healing journey, please be intentional about the faces you allow into your space. If you're not careful, you run the risk of being retraumatized.
❤️🩹Some people have pure intentions to help you, while others have hidden & selfish intentions that'll hurt you
❤️🩹Some people don't have the capacity to help but don't know it--you'll end up being hurt
❤️🩹Some people may have the capacity to help but don't know how to--you'll end up being hurt in your healing space possibly causing you to regress
It's up to you to learn who's who!! If you struggle in this area, seek professional help. Don't feel embarrassed about doing so. You deserve the opportunity to identity & attain every tool to help you grow ❤️
